How dependent are you?

 

One of the most common desires of a human being is to be independent. Independent of parents, relationships, children and even favors. It’s really frustrating to have to rely on others to get what you want, but we don’t always have the pleasure of being so independent… that’s when irritation kicks in. The thought of having to wait on others and feel like you are in their hands. This is what Renato and I see the most during our counseling at the Love Therapy. People who depend on others who don’t give them anything, they cheat, abuse and ignore them.
But there are many people who depend on others and don’t know it, out of everyone, I think these are the most unhappy. When you don’t know that you depend on others, you don’t do anything to be independent and it makes you stop in time as well as a vulnerable person.
Some examples of dependent people:

• You never see your mistakes and you need others to call your attention.
• You can’t stay away from social networks and you always need to know what’s happening there.
• You depend on other people’s attention to feel good.
• You check who liked and who didn’t like your posts.
• You don’t like to be alone and always find an excuse to have someone with you, whether it is to go somewhere or to stay at home.
• You need to be in a relationship to feel happy.
• You need compliments to feel good about yourself.
• You don’t like to take initiatives and are always waiting for someone to take them for you.
• You are always asking for prayer and advice. Between you and God, there is always someone to intercede for you.
• You need someone to point which direction to take. You are not firm on your own.
• You don’t seek to learn new things and depend on others to teach you only when it really becomes a necessity.
• You don’t read and don’t keep yourself aware of things and so you depend on others who do it for you.
• You are addicted, whether it is a drug, food, social networks, television, pornography…
• You depend on friends to exercise or to do a diet.
• You depend on feeling motivated to do do everything. If things are not in order, you don’t do anything.
• You depend on the weather outside to feel good. If it is raining, you feel grumpy.
• You depend on the mood of others to be in a good mood.
• You only treat well those who treat you well.
• You depend on being in church to be in spirit.
• You rely on a pet.

As long as you depend on others, you will never feel good about yourself and will always be with that feeling that you are not the person you should be.
In order to stop being dependent on others, you need to learn to depend on God, only He can give us the ability to do so.