A couple’s false sense of well-being – pay attention to these 8 signs

  

The old saying, “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it,” only applies until something breaks. No sports coach with the minimum level of competence will believe this quote. They know that waiting until their team starts losing to start making changes is a recipe for disaster.

The truth is that this saying is for the lazy. When a person doesn’t want to go to a lot of trouble to care of something, they use this popular quote to justify their apathy.
I’ve seen this happen to many couples. They’re doing well (or so it seems), till one day a bomb goes off. However, a closer look to what really happened reveals that the problem already existed way before the blast. The small signs were there, such as:

1. The couple’s tedious routine.
2. A lack of meaningful conversation.
3. Minor irritations that became constant ones.
4. Fights that never dealt with the root cause.
5. Intimacy was slower than a limping snail (or pleasant only for the man).
6. They couldn’t agree on important issues.
7. A lot of tension between the couple.
8. Schedules that pushed them farther away from each other.

Despite all these signs, the couple keeps thinking that “everything’s fine.” Typical of every couple, isn’t it? But then again, no. These signs don’t indicate a normal marriage, let alone a healthy one.
The problem with such couples is what I call “a false sense of well-being”. They think they’re fine. She thinks that it’s just the way he is. (To be honest, men are usually the ones incurring in this mistake. Men are known for waiting till the last minutes of extra time to deal with their marital problems, and only towards the very end, when all is practically lost, they try to win the game.)
Pay attention to this point:

For a team to keep winning, it is necessary to pay close attention to its performance and make the preventive adjustments every time it’s needed.