Letting go of people who separate us from love

This month in the Love Therapy we’ve been talking about the importance of letting go of ideas, people and things that hurt our love life. Attachment to these things stops the flow of true love in our lives. It’s inherent to humans to get attached to things. We’re like glue: we easily stick to people, things and ideas, sometimes, for no apparent reason. If they’re good or harmless, it’s ok; otherwise, they can be fatal to our happiness in love.

Certain people can also be one of the greatest impediments to your happiness in love. Ideas travel through people (no ideas are exchanged in the graveyard) — and many people are conveyors of ideas that cause serious damage to your love life.

In order to be happy in love, you shouldn’t allow anyone to come in between the two of you, only God. The moment someone gets between the two of you, your relationship will begin to end.

Watch this three-minute video:

In this movie, Clarice grew up in a home where her mother controlled everyone, including her dad, with an iron fist. With her mother using bitterness, resentment and anger to teach her, Clarice became a bitter woman, just like her mother. After a car accident, she brings her mother over to live with them against her husband’s will. Now, Clarice and her mother unite to get rid of her husband, Dave, by sending him away from home. But Clarice re-assesses the situation with her husband and confronts her mother. She finally realizes that, in order to solve the problems with her husband, she has to stop allowing her mother to interfere in her life and marriage. “I do not want to end up like you,” she tells her mother, after having finally come to her senses.

The first order God gave the first couple was: 

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.  – Genesis 2.24

If we have to let go of people we’re strongly attached to from birth so we can become one flesh, let alone others. However, how many couples are allowing their child, step-child, real or virtual friends, mother-in-law, father, brother, ex-boyfriend, ex-wife, an old crush, naked women from the Internet, WhatsApp buddies, chat groups, etc., SEPARTE THEM from true love?

Re-evaluate the people you’re letting into your life. Consider the people you interact with socially or through social networks. Examine if you really need to be fantasizing with sexy photos and videos of people who have nothing to do with your life, and yet can hurt your relationship.

Detach yourself from people who separate you from love. Let go of people who push you away from God. Cut yourself loose from those who hurt you.

Just like Clarice did with her mother, this can be the first step to rebuilding your relationship, or the preparation for a new one.